I LOVE this video. Not so much because it’s the best quality, or super exciting to watch but because of what this guy is saying. Many of you know that I’m in graduate school right now, studying to be a mental health counselor. What this video is teaching is exactly what I’m learning in my classes, which makes sense to me. You, as foster parents, are the best counselors that kids in your homes can have. Their therapists (if they even have them) only see them for an hour a week, at most. But you guys have a much more long lasting and profound effect on these kiddos.
The video is not embedded in this post, so you’ll have to click on the link to view it. Please do. It’s totally worth it.
A couple points I think are super important that are touched on: The four basic psychological needs that he talks about are based off of a theory of psychotherapy called Reality Therapy, so know that what he’s teaching is supported by years of research. He talks about taking the kids’ behavior personally. We often learn or think the opposite in this field. “You can’t take what this kid says personally, he doesn’t mean it.” Well, what are we teaching our kids if we think that they don’t mean what they say?? Kids need to know that they’re important and we take them seriously and they have an effect on our lives! Can you imagine what it would feel like if everyone in your life said, “I can’t take what you say personally. You don’t mean it.” How frustrating!!
He covers a LOT more in this video. I LOVE IT! Which of his topics made you think, or do you think you’ll apply in your home?